Nobody Talks About How Hard It to Go From Strong to Soft

Have you seen this viral trend?

Nobody talks about how hard it is to go from this…

(overlay something glamorous)

…to this.

(cut to less-than-aspirational imagery)

For lifestyle athletes and competitors, this hits different.  

Because nobody really talks about how hard it is to go from feeling your best - nutrition dialed, owning your training, loving how your body looks and performs…to feeling like you’re completely starting from scratch.

I hear this from women I coach all the time:

“I used to be really muscular, and then…”“I got down to ideal size, until...”

“I feel like I’m completely starting over.”

I get it. I’ve lived this cycle more than once myself.

Whether it’s triggered by a major life change, coming off a competition season, shifting priorities, or hormone changes, it’s hard. It can rattle your identity and self-esteem. When you’re used to structure and direction, losing it can leave you feeling lost, frustrated, even ashamed or angry.

Let’s take control of the narrative for a moment and reframe what’s really happening here.

Key Reframes

1. Starting over ≠ failure

Sometimes life genuinely demands a different approach. This isn’t a dead end, it’s just a fork in the road. You can recalibrate or repeat cycles that have already proven not to work.

2. Your experience is an asset

Pause the self-criticism and assess:

• What were you truly striving for?

• Was the goal clearly defined?

• Was your approach sustainable for the season of life you were in?

• Did you actually have the right structure and support in place?

3. Your internal narrative matters more than you think

Pay attention to how you’re talking to yourself right now. Nobody has ever shamed, rushed, or punished their way into a sustainable dream body. Lasting change comes from self-respect, patience, and compassion. Speak to yourself the way you would to a close friend who’s navigating change.

Structure (The Missing Piece)

Here’s what I see again and again:

Effort isn’t the problem. 

Desire isn’t the problem. 

Even direction usually isn’t the problem.

What’s missing is structure. And that’s more than just a training program, or meal plan.

That structure doesn’t need to be extreme or complicated. It needs to:

• Clarify priorities

• Remove guesswork

• Create momentum through small, visible wins

That’s exactly what I’ve built into the Physique Blueprint On-Demand Platform. 

You don’t need to “get back” to who you were.

You need a plan that supports who you are now…and where you want to go next.

If you’re feeling stuck, the first step is clarity. I created a short quiz to help you identify the best starting point for your goals, experience, and lifestyle. It’s time, babe, stop spinning your wheels and move forward with confidence.

Physique Blueprint helps women build sculpted hourglass shapes, and the confidence to match. Check out on-demand programs, group coaching cohorts, and 1:1 transformation support to sculpt your hourglass shape and the confidence to match.

Connect ✨ Empower ✨ Excel